TryShadowing
Shadow YouTube. Nói tiếng Anh.
Trang chủ
Khám phá
Chép chính tả
NEW
Thư viện
vi
0
ngày
Đăng nhập
wake up babe, they'r… — The Financial Diet luyện shadowing | TryShadowing
TryShadowing
Shadow YouTube. Nói tiếng Anh.
Trang chủ
Khám phá
Chép chính tả
NEW
Thư viện
vi
0
ngày
Đăng nhập
Trang chủ
Khám phá
The Financial Diet
wake up babe, they're doing return-to-office propaganda again
wake up babe, they're doing return-to-office propaganda again
The Financial Diet
·
33:38 · 19 thg 4, 2026
Bắt đầu học
0:00
0:00
Ghi âm
×1
1x
VI
EN
JA
KO
ZH
FR
PT
TH
IT
DE
IPA
Chấm điểm phát âm chưa hỗ trợ trên trình duyệt này — bạn vẫn ghi âm & nghe lại được.
Hi
everyone.
Đang dịch…
Bật Ghi âm để được thu giọng và chấm điểm
Thông minh
Karaoke
Câu
1
/769
0:00
Hi everyone.
0:01
It's me, Chelsea.
0:03
I am hopping on my iPhone here on this actually glorious Saturday afternoon,
0:07
which I normally would not be doing.
0:09
But I did want to make this video somewhat urgently both for the timeliness
0:13
of the conversation and also
0:15
because of the conversation
0:17
that my short videos on the subject on my TikTok
0:21
and Instagram this morning have been generating
0:24
that I think frankly warrants the nuanced discussion
0:27
that only a long video can provide. it's just very difficult to have nuanced
0:32
conversations via things like TikTok.
0:35
And so I wanted to come here
0:37
and talk about it also
0:37
because this is a subject
0:39
that is both extremely relevant to the content
0:42
that we do here on the Financial Diet channel,
0:44
but also to how we run ourselves as a business at the Financial Diet.
0:48
Labor practices and changing the way we work is probably the number one thing
0:52
that I'm most passionate about in my life
0:54
as a business owner.
0:56
And so this is something
0:58
that is just really top-of-mind for me generally
1:00
and especially with this book out.
1:02
Could not be a better time for this conversation.
1:04
So for context, there is an executive named Emma Greede.
1:08
I actually said greedy in the video that I posted.
1:12
Some people pointed out that it's Greede.
1:13
I apologize.
1:14
I heard it pronounced greedy on some interviews with her that I was watching.
1:19
So that's what I said.
1:20
Apologies if I mispronounced it.
1:22
But she is a very big deal in the business world.
1:26
She is an executive or founder at multiple Kardashian brands.
1:30
A lot of her press as the Kardashian whisperer, Skims, Good American, etc.
1:35
And she has a new book out this week called Start With Yourself
1:38
that is kind of one in a long line of books by female executives
1:42
that are sort of part memoir,
1:43
part self-help, part just sort of general advice giving for especially women in the
1:49
workplace who want to who want to get ahead,
1:51
who want to be in leadership positions, etc.
1:54
Now, on her press tour, which has been huge.
1:57
I mean she's been on most of the major shows
2:00
and has been getting a ton of media attention for this book,
2:03
and I can totally see why because she has chosen some,
2:06
let's just say more controversial talking points from her book to focus on in
2:11
her media tour.
2:12
Um, for example, she is a mother of four children
2:15
and she refers to herself
2:16
as a three-hour mom,
2:18
I believe, um, and talks a lot about sort of having more minimal
2:22
but more impactful time with her children.
2:24
That has been generally generating a lot of conversation.
2:27
I want to be so clear here that I am not a mother,
2:30
let alone a working mother.
2:31
That is not really my wheelhouse,
2:32
so I don't I don't really have anything to say on that.
2:34
I Who knows how I would be.
2:36
Certainly not for me to judge.
2:37
Um, but another major talking point from her book
2:40
that she's been focusing on in her media tour,
2:42
which is what I focus on, um,
2:44
in my video and I want to talk about here, is specifically remote work,
2:48
working from home, being a career killer, career suicide for women in particular.
2:55
Um, now she gives a lot of, kind of,
2:57
I would say common reasons for remote work being not good,
3:01
especially not good for women.
3:03
It lowers your visibility, your face time with executives, chances for advancement, et cetera.
3:08
And that has been a really common refrain on a huge part of her
3:12
media tour and has been generating a lot of conversation,
3:16
this video being a part of that.
3:18
And I totally understand why
3:19
because that is a statement
3:21
that is controversial at best,
3:23
very unpopular with many people, and one that I really profoundly disagree with.
3:28
But, the response even to my initial video on this subject has been very
3:33
interesting to me and really indicative of where we are in our current cultural
3:38
moment about our relationship to work,
3:40
to capitalism, to feminism, all of these things.
3:43
And also speaks very effectively to why, uh, you know,
3:47
this very aspirational woman who is not just a an executive
3:51
but an executive for female-led
3:53
and focused companies like Kardashian companies is sort of an ideal messenger for this
3:59
kind of what I personally consider to be let's just say toxic workplace propaganda.
4:07
Now, I want to give two disclaimers here before I get into what I
4:10
said and and kind of the response to it.
4:13
First and foremost being that Emma is far and away not the first person,
4:17
certainly won't be the last to let's just say give what I consider to
4:23
be somewhat compromised advice to women about how they can act in the work
4:28
how they should act in the workplace.
4:30
Uh on the channel last week, we talked about Kelly Cutrone's memoir from 2015,
4:34
which I revisited in part
4:36
because it felt like it would be a time capsule of how we used
4:39
to talk about women in the workplace,
4:41
and it very much was.
4:42
I found myself less turned off by it than I thought I would be
4:46
15 years later,
4:47
but there's definitely still a lot of that book that tone-deaf.
4:51
We've also talked on this channel before about books like Girl Boss.
4:54
We did a two-part series about Lean In,
4:56
um which has a lot of overlap with this kind of talk about women
4:59
needing to be more present in the workplace.
5:01
So, I certainly don't want to single out this book
5:05
or this moment as being the only culprit,
5:08
let's say, in this kind of specific talk geared toward women.
5:12
It is certainly not.
5:13
It is just the most recent example of it.
5:17
And it is very much in the cultural zeitgeist because again,
5:20
this media tour is extremely effective, extremely popular.
5:23
I also do want to highlight that Emma is a black woman,
5:26
and I acknowledge that as a white woman,
5:28
my experience in the workplace has been and will always be different,
5:32
and that the um the way her advice is received by other black women
5:38
in the workplace may well be very different.
5:40
That is really not my place to speak on,
5:42
and I understand that I will only come at this from a limited perspective.
5:46
That being said, this advice is being sort of targeted very widely
5:50
and and in a very generalized way.
5:52
I think it is fair to say
5:53
that we as women
5:55
and when we're being spoken about
5:56
as women in the workplace,
5:58
um that even if it is not going to hit all of us in
6:01
the same way,
6:02
that it is at least being addressed to all of us.
6:05
Um and kind of more importantly,
6:07
how we talk about
6:08
and think about things like remote work
6:10
and how that is normalized
6:12
and propagandized affects literally all workers
6:15
and that includes men,
6:16
women, any part of the workforce is really impacted by how we talk about
6:21
things like returning to the office,
6:22
especially returning to the office full-time.
6:25
Um so, I do personally think
6:27
that if we're going to start talking about returning to the office in what
6:33
I would consider to be quasi-feminist terms,
6:36
like we're offering this as a way for women to get ahead,
6:40
that is something that we are all impacted by
6:43
and I don't use the term propaganda lightly
6:47
when I talk about how we talk about things such
6:50
as returning to the office
6:51
and we'll get into
6:52
that in a minute.
6:53
Um but with those two disclaimers aside,
6:56
um to give a little context in the video,
6:58
so I was responding to one of the articles
7:01
that I read where she talks about uh remote work being a career killer
7:05
for women in particular
7:07
because they are likely to be not noticed
7:09
as much,
7:10
to be passed over, etc.
7:12
Um and that it's just it puts them at a disadvantage for advancing into
7:15
leadership positions.
7:17
Now, my point in the video
7:19
and I pointed to a few different data sets here is
7:21
that not only have we established
7:23
that remote work actually makes employees more productive,
7:26
it also drastically increases employee satisfaction and retention.
7:30
It has also been demonstrated to reduce gender discrimination in the workplace.
7:34
Uh women actually tend to fare better on terms of discrimination
7:38
when they are working remotely
7:39
and I think there's There's of obvious reasons for
7:41
that,
7:41
right?
7:41
Like when you're uh not necessarily visually FaceTiming with someone as much,
7:46
there are fewer opportunities for a lot of their unconscious biases to maybe be
7:50
put into practice versus
7:52
when you're literally sitting across from them in person.
7:54
Even something as small as, you know,
7:56
not being expected to put on a full face of makeup
7:59
and blow your hair out every day has a lot of advantages in terms
8:04
of how you can move around the workplace
8:07
and be perceived when
8:08
that is not just one additional burden that's being put on you in order
8:12
to be taken seriously
8:14
or perceived in a certain way.
8:15
It's also worth noting,
8:16
and this is something
8:17
that Emma has talked about on her press tour
8:20
as well,
8:20
but women take on a disproportionate amount of domestic labor in the home kind
8:24
of as a rule.
8:25
Now, we've talked at length on TFD about how this is not a good
8:29
thing and needs to be changed.
8:30
However, the practical reality on a current basis is
8:33
that not having to lose multiple hours a day to an unnecessary commute for
8:37
a job that could be done remotely does stand to more immediately benefit women
8:42
whose time is already much more burdened
8:44
and taxed.
8:45
Now, her argument is
8:46
that working from home means women are going to be increasingly dividing their attentions
8:51
with their children more
8:52
so than their husbands are.
8:53
I would argue that even if that were true,
8:55
and I frankly don't necessarily agree
8:57
as someone who has multiple employees with children who finds them to be incredibly
9:01
engaged and productive and focused even
9:03
when those children are home,
9:05
I would say that in terms of of practicality,
9:08
it it is at minimum counterbalanced by the fact that for slightly older children,
9:12
it automatically means uh a lower need for child care.
9:16
Um so, all of
9:17
that is to say just on a pure sort of fact basis in terms
9:22
of the data,
9:24
remote work is overall a good thing,
9:27
and you can even make the argument
9:28
that it is even more of a good thing for the women in the
9:31
workplace.
9:31
And that is not even to get into, for example,
9:34
um uh disabled people who may not even be able to do a job
9:38
if it requires them to physically be somewhere
9:39
but could easily do it from home.
9:42
So, that is sort of the the the the data set from remote work
9:46
that I want to focus on.
9:47
I also want to put our cards on the table here
9:49
and say that TFD,
9:50
we are now fully remote for over a year now
9:52
and prior to that we're doing about two days a week in office,
9:55
but at a certain point it just got to be too expensive
9:58
and we now save about $60,000 a year from not having an office.
10:02
We do work in person sometimes,
10:03
we'll rent a space for the day
10:05
or we come together to film certain things,
10:07
but for the most part,
10:08
we are totally remote and in that year since we've been completely remote,
10:11
productivity and profitability have both increased,
10:14
which is the exact same result
10:15
that we got from switching to a four-day work week six years ago,
10:18
which we've kept ever since.
10:20
I also noted in
10:20
that video that for a lot of the data out there about remote work
10:24
improving employee productivity and satisfaction,
10:28
etc., that those things are all true for a four-day work week,
10:31
that people are just
10:32
as productive if not more
10:33
so with four days than they were with five,
10:35
and that on top of that, unlike remote work,
10:37
which is just literally not possible for some jobs,
10:40
a four-day work week theoretically could be for all jobs
10:43
if the employers were willing to staff the jobs correctly.
10:47
That's kind of a digression, honestly.
10:48
We're not really talking about the four-day work week here,
10:50
but I do think
10:51
that a lot of the narratives around something like a four-day work week are
10:57
extremely similar to the ones around returning to office,
10:59
especially return to office full-time,
11:02
in that often what you're seeing is is a really outdated clinging to a
11:07
model of work that we no longer need,
11:09
and it is often the people who are least impacted by the drawbacks of
11:14
those old models,
11:15
whether that's the commute
11:17
or the additional child care costs
11:18
or fuel costs or what have you,
11:21
who are most aggressive about pushing it forward or keeping it in place,
11:26
which we'll get to in a second.
11:27
Um but so basically the argument of my video was we're getting more return
11:31
to office propaganda this time from a very glamorous
11:34
and aspirational source,
11:35
i.e., a Kardashian executive.
11:37
Uh this is why the return to office propaganda is noise, is BS,
11:41
and we should do everything in our power to push against it because again,
11:45
these narratives are really harmful and affect everyone.
11:49
And I even say
11:49
that as someone who
11:50
if I I think
11:51
if I had my ultimate dream scenario,
11:54
it would be like one day a week in office just
11:56
because I do like some face time.
11:58
Um but I'm actually fine to just be remote
12:00
and save the money
12:00
and and you know,
12:01
there are many other benefits to that as well.
12:04
Um and also, I don't think
12:05
that my preferences should necessarily be imposed on everyone else just
12:09
because I'm the boss,
12:10
especially if everyone is just as productive if not more so.
12:13
Um although I will say, and this is the drum I'm always beating,
12:16
if you are fully remote,
12:17
you do have to make sure
12:18
that you are getting in community face time in other ways
12:21
and not just like completely isolating yourself cuz
12:24
that is genuinely,
12:25
speaking of data, extremely bad for mental health and even physical health,
12:28
but that is completely a digression.
12:31
Ultimately, I think it's a better thing
12:33
if people are able to choose how they spend
12:34
that time instead of,
12:35
you know, for example,
12:36
sitting at an office uh sitting in a cubicle staring at a screen 8
12:40
hours a day and
12:41
then spending an additional 2 hours a day commuting.
12:44
All of that said, so that was the video that I made.
12:47
And I noticed even in the first few hours of of putting it up
12:50
that some of the responses most of the responses agreed
12:53
because I mean,
12:54
I'm not surprised.
12:55
This is what I talk about a lot on my feed,
12:56
so it's kind of a self-selecting audience.
12:58
But some of the people in the responses were saying some version of she's
13:03
not saying it's a good thing
13:05
that we need to be in the office in order to advance our careers,
13:09
get ahead, etc.
13:11
We she's saying that it's a it's an unfortunate reality,
13:15
that it's a reluctant necessity,
13:17
and that women need to um accept
13:21
that and to borrow Sheryl Sandberg's term
13:23
because it's it was a very similar book with very similar messaging.
13:27
Lean in, you know,
13:28
do put yourself forward in a way
13:30
that makes you more visible
13:31
and makes you more um indispensable,
13:35
I think is the argument.
13:36
And in the comments, I said individually,
13:39
I actually don't disagree
13:42
that it is a reality
13:43
that the return to office is being propagandized
13:45
and pushed and favored in many industries.
13:48
My argument is that especially
13:51
if you have managed to accrue an enormous amount of money,
13:54
power, and influence, all of which she has,
13:56
she says in multiple interviews that she herself alone manages hunt hundreds of women,
14:01
which is even just in terms of your own workplace means an enormous amount
14:05
of influence.
14:07
The idea to me of using that to say, "Okay,
14:11
maybe X or Y is toxic
14:13
and maybe it's not even backed up by the data,"
14:15
which we fully know it's not backed up by the data,
14:17
employees again more productive,
14:19
higher retention when they're able to work on their own terms
14:23
and not being sort of panopticoned 24/7
14:26
and micromanaged,
14:28
uh to to use that power and to use that megaphone to reinforce that,
14:35
I take great, frankly, ethical issue with.
14:37
And some of the people in the comments were also saying some version of,
14:41
"Well, she's speaking very specifically to female leadership,
14:45
to women who really want to get ahead.
14:46
If it's not for you, then just keep moving."
14:49
As a woman in leadership,
14:51
as a woman who is herself a CEO who employs strictly other women,
14:55
um and who does have a large platform on
14:58
which to promote ideas
15:00
that I agree with,
15:01
I actually personally take offense to the idea
15:04
that specifically targeting women who are in any way ambitious with essentially doubling down
15:11
on some of the most damaging
15:13
and toxic aspects of our workplace is even more offensive
15:17
because you're theoretically training
15:20
and informing the women who will
15:22
then themselves one day be managers,
15:25
and then I assume by this theory continue to even further perpetuate those ideas
15:32
and frameworks around work
15:33
because that's what they did,
15:35
that's what they were able to do to get ahead.
15:38
I'll use an example from my own workplace,
15:40
and this is something
15:41
that I even talked about in our Kelly Cutrone video this week,
15:44
which is that I am very lucid about the fact
15:46
that I would not have my current career,
15:49
I would have not published, um you know, books,
15:52
I would not have built a business,
15:53
I would not have the platform I do
15:55
if I did not initially work for free.
15:57
I worked for free
15:58
as a writer for almost 2 years straight
16:02
and was paid at the end of
16:03
that $25 an article-ish uh toward the tail end of it leading up to
16:08
getting my first book deal back in 2012.
16:11
I am very lucid about the fact that the platform that I got,
16:15
which landed me that book deal, came from unpaid work.
16:18
I have owned my business for 11 years.
16:21
Never one time have we made someone do unpaid work at our business.
16:25
We literally pay for edit tests for people that we don't even hire.
16:29
I am not saying that to be self-aggrandizing,
16:31
we could always be doing better, blah blah blah blah blah.
16:33
What I am saying though is my takeaway from yeah,
16:37
I got where I got
16:38
because I was working in really shitty exploitative environments
16:42
that required me to work for free was not
16:44
and therefore so should the people who work for me.
16:46
It was actually if we can afford it, let's not do that.
16:49
We've never once had an intern, and it's actually not that hard to do,
16:53
and I'm not even sure
16:54
that we would have been all
16:54
that much better off with interns
16:56
because quite frankly,
16:58
when you pay people correctly and when you create a good work environment,
17:02
they do really good work.
17:04
I think we've benefited enormously over the past decade plus from having those practices,
17:08
and in fact, some of the companies
17:10
that treated me like
17:11
and didn't pay are fully out of business now.
17:13
Not surprising.
17:14
I'm sure they also were like pivoting to AI
17:16
and then fell off a cliff
17:17
or whoever who knows
17:18
because usually if you're running an unethical piece of business,
17:22
it's not going to get better with time.
17:24
I say that to say
17:24
though like the framework of this is what worked for me
17:28
or this is the reality of the business
17:30
that I exist in.
17:31
I resent the idea
17:32
that perpetuating it once you have power is in any way the acceptable thing
17:37
to do.
17:38
Um because again, these narratives that we put forward,
17:41
they don't even just impact the people who read your book
17:44
or the people who work company,
17:46
they impact all of us
17:47
because now some piece of executive at some other company who wants to make
17:52
everyone be mandatory 5 days a week in office even
17:55
though they could all easily do their jobs from home can take this book
17:58
or take it success
17:58
or take these interviews point to it
18:00
and say,
18:00
"Well, look at her.
18:01
She's saying it and I'm just this, you know, old geezer,
18:04
but this young cool aspirational woman agrees with me
18:07
and thinks that this is actually good for women."
18:10
So, I do think
18:10
that there is a massive responsibility with what narratives we're pushing especially
18:15
if we can acknowledge
18:16
that there is also toxicity to them.
18:18
As I mentioned, this is far
18:20
and away not the first book to cover these kinds of things
18:23
or to present this kind of framework for how women should
18:27
or do get ahead.
18:29
And there will probably be more like this after.
18:31
There is no like to me it is not at all shocking
18:33
that these books are always massively successful in media
18:36
because they play directly into corporate interests.
18:40
They They are I mean, truly at their core capitalist fan girling.
18:46
Like they really are
18:47
and I'm not even going to say
18:49
as someone who runs a small business
18:50
that we don't all like we famously live in a society.
18:53
We all have to engage with some of these things like it or not.
18:56
However, I think it is there are degrees to this stuff
18:59
and I think the more power
19:01
and influence you have,
19:02
the more of a responsibility you have to be a positive force for change
19:07
specifically when identifying the toxic environments
19:11
that you yourself were forced to survive in.
19:14
Um Um but I also want to say that, as I mentioned,
19:19
it is not surprising to me
19:21
that a Kardashian executive a beautiful aspirational social media savvy blah blah blah like
19:27
that that that that figurehead is the perfect one to represent this kind of
19:33
narrative because when you actually take a step back
19:36
and look at who is really invested in the return to office propaganda,
19:42
which is also what I talked about in my video,
19:44
it is distinctly not that kind of woman.
19:47
It is not the type of woman who is looking up to Emma on
19:49
social media and you know,
19:51
liking and sharing her posts.
19:52
It is really two categories of uh people in the American workforce who are
19:57
deeply invested in everyone being planted in an office 5 days a week.
20:00
Number one, first and foremost, is commercial real estate.
20:04
I cannot stress this enough.
20:05
Commercial real estate is in a full-blown crisis post-pandemic
20:09
and as someone who now saves $60,000 a year by not having an office,
20:14
I fully understand why.
20:16
You know, we were obviously out of office for the first I think year
20:19
and a half of the pandemic,
20:20
then we were in office like one
20:21
or two days a week
20:22
and we were doing the one
20:23
or two day week,
20:23
we were like holding on to the concept of office time being totally necessary
20:27
for some time.
20:28
And then when we gave it up and as I mentioned,
20:30
productivity and profitability went up, it was like, "Wow."
20:33
We were like it it took us
20:35
so long to to save
20:37
that money and understand
20:38
that we were better off.
20:39
Commercial real estate, that entire industry does not want people to realize that.
20:43
They do not want people to even read the data on how much better
20:47
people can be at their jobs
20:49
when they're not also having to commute
20:50
and go do it in a soulless office 5 days a week.
20:53
So, that is first
20:55
and foremost the number one beneficiary of us all being caught in this,
20:58
you know, endless loop.
21:00
I would say probably car culture is up there, too,
21:05
because where would Americans be
21:06
if they didn't have to spend multiple hours a day behind the wheel of
21:09
their car?
21:10
Although commutes to and from the office are only one of many culprits,
21:13
the fact that we all live in such, you know, spaced-out, distant,
21:18
unwalkable communities is also part of the reason
21:21
that we're in this situation with car culture.
21:23
That is a completely different video for another day,
21:25
but car car culture certainly gets a nice boost from people doing unnecessary commutes
21:29
all the time.
21:30
Um, but the other major beneficiary of people having to go back to the
21:34
office is,
21:35
as I call them, male executives who hate their families.
21:38
Now, this is a little bit of a generalization,
21:41
but I think anyone who's worked in a corporate environment uh can definitely attest
21:45
to the fact that there is just like,
21:46
let's say, a social cast of older men at the top of a lot
21:52
of these industries,
21:53
finance, tech, big law, etc., where their entire identity, self-worth, social group,
22:00
uh hobbies, like everything goes back to their to their office, to their work,
22:06
to their co-workers.
22:08
That is who they are at their core.
22:10
Um, and they are not particularly interested in spending more time with their families,
22:14
with their wives, with their children.
22:15
Uh, let's say if you were to give them a 4-day work week,
22:18
they would probably spend that fifth day working, uh golfing,
22:22
or playing squash with their work friends,
22:24
or just generally otherwise avoiding their family obligations.
22:27
Like, these are men who are not clamoring to have more personal time.
22:31
And again, even if you look at their hobbies,
22:33
most of their hobbies are tied up with like networking for their for their
22:36
careers.
22:37
Uh, I know men like this.
22:38
There are men like this in my own family, and I'm like,
22:41
"The day you retire,
22:42
you are just going to step right out of
22:43
that office and into a grave,
22:44
because there's truly nothing else going on in your life uh
22:47
that you care about."
22:47
Even though these men have everything, like, again,
22:50
if you've ever worked in a corporate environment, like, you know these men.
22:53
And those men who are unfortunately often setting the tone for the office,
22:57
and who also don't give a about managing uh
23:01
and balancing the demands of your work with the demands of child care
23:04
because they're not the ones doing it.
23:06
They're not the ones taking care of that child.
23:09
Um, unfortunately, they are still overwhelmingly in deciding positions at this company,
23:15
so they are able to impose their dream scenario,
23:18
which is where everyone is chained to their desk all the time
23:20
and has no choice
23:21
but to,
23:22
uh, make their entire identity their work.
23:25
They get to impose that on everyone else.
23:26
These are the same people who are like, "Oh,
23:28
the death of the workplace happy hour."
23:30
It's like, guys, A,
23:33
some people don't spend all day dreaming of getting drunk with their co-workers,
23:37
but also B, like didn't Me Too happen?
23:40
Didn't we learn that like constantly mixing alcohol with the workplace was like at
23:44
best a very risky proposition?
23:47
And listen, I enjoy spending time with my colleagues.
23:50
We just had a really nice We It was our first time getting together
23:53
since January.
23:54
We did a lovely co-working day in a rented space.
23:56
We had a really lovely dinner.
23:58
One of our employees is going on her maternity leave.
24:00
We got to celebrate her
24:01
and do little gifts
24:02
and it was like It was really fun.
24:03
Don't get me wrong.
24:04
I love that.
24:06
Do I dream of doing that every day after work?
24:09
Absolutely not.
24:10
And I really adore my co-workers.
24:12
So, to think about wanting to do
24:14
that in a soulless corporate workplace where you don't even like these people for
24:17
the time you have to be there,
24:18
like I say all of that to say,
24:22
there is clearly a generational divide in the workplace
24:26
that is also often falling along gender lines of who stands to benefit from
24:30
us being way over indexed on work
24:32
and specifically on the workplace.
24:36
COVID was very disruptive to these people.
24:38
They had to be with those families that they don't like.
24:40
They had to be home all the time.
24:42
And I actually would take it a step further
24:44
and say that a lot of those male executives who hate their families,
24:49
they maybe hate one thing more,
24:51
and that is people in the workplace who don't hate their families,
24:54
who do want to be getting home,
24:55
who do want to be spending more time with loved ones,
24:58
and have more hobbies, and build more of an identity outside of work.
25:01
They deeply resent that.
25:03
So, I would actually argue
25:04
that even more so than not having face time in a lot of work
25:10
environments,
25:10
the fact of being home probably just pisses off some of leadership cuz they're
25:13
like,
25:14
"How dare they enjoy their lives
25:17
and more time with their families
25:18
and getting to cook dinner in the evening instead of sitting in their car
25:21
for an hour in bumper-to-bumper traffic?
25:23
How dare they do that?"
25:25
What What What is that mean?
25:26
It's like, "Really?
25:27
In front of my cereal?"
25:29
I don't know what she says, but like,
25:31
that's the feeling that I get from these people.
25:34
And so, overwhelmingly, I think,
25:35
when you consider the powers
25:37
that be of who stands to benefit from dragging us all back into the
25:40
workplace unnecessarily,
25:42
they are not the same people who are writing these like glossy, glamorous,
25:46
media-ready books about girlbossing your way up the corporate ladder.
25:51
But, the women who are put out as the face of this,
25:56
especially as the face for women in the workplace,
26:00
they make for a very convenient uh alternative to the reality of who is
26:05
actually benefiting.
26:07
I deeply believe, and I would I do think I would believe this even
26:11
if I weren't a business owner,
26:12
but as a business owner, particularly,
26:14
I believe it is our responsibility to be honest about the realities of a
26:19
lot of our industries
26:20
and the realities of a lot of not great work dynamics,
26:25
even ones that we ourselves had to come up in, had to deal with,
26:28
push back against, etc.
26:30
But, it is even more
26:31
so our responsibility to use whatever power we have to do something different,
26:36
to change it, to make it to make sure
26:40
that the people who are coming up now don't have the experiences
26:44
that we had.
26:45
I wouldn't even necessarily take issue with saying
26:50
that right now the reality is X for let's say women who work
26:55
as a big law attorney.
26:58
And you know, are having to deal with like the crustiest of the dustiest
27:02
of male executives at the top who are deciding her fate.
27:05
And just being super transparent about the fact that like, yeah,
27:08
you're going to have to get like round-the-clock child care
27:10
because if you dare leave
27:11
that office early one day,
27:12
they'll never promote your ass again.
27:14
Like I wouldn't even mind being honest and transparent about that.
27:19
But then the follow-up to
27:20
that has to be
27:21
and this is how we're changing it.
27:23
And this is how we're doing it different.
27:24
And this is how I am not going to be a part of
27:27
that machine that makes it more
27:30
and more acceptable to do this to everyone in the workplace.
27:33
As I said, this coming from a Kardashian executive,
27:36
least surprising aspect of all of this.
27:39
I am so sick, and this is maybe a minor digression,
27:42
but I have to say this.
27:44
I feel like for as long as I've been an adult,
27:46
for even predating my adult life,
27:48
I have been against my will engaged in a constant never-ending social discourse about
27:52
whether or not the Kardashians are feminist,
27:55
about whether or not they are a positive a net positive
27:59
or negative for women,
28:00
uh what their responsibility is to the greater culture, like are they good billionaires,
28:04
are they evil billionaires, is there such a thing,
28:06
like are they actually making women's insecurity worse or are they, you know,
28:11
turning patriarchy on its head to moneti- whatever.
28:15
First of all, like we have bigger problems.
28:17
I can't keep debating the stupid Kardashian question anymore.
28:21
But I will only say this.
28:22
If you look historically at the Kardashian business model, both their actual businesses,
28:29
like for example, the Kylie lip kit
28:31
when she was in peak gaslighting everyone about having gotten fillers
28:35
and pretending it was some makeup,
28:36
um all the way up to like, you know,
28:39
the the body shapers being sold by women who have like,
28:43
from what I've heard,
28:44
literal plastic surgery recovery rooms in their own home compounds
28:48
because they are so frequently getting touched up
28:50
and pretending as though the real secret to looking the way
28:53
that they look is some good shapewear
28:55
and not,
28:56
you know, round-the-clock on-call uh surgical teams.
29:01
The the common through-line is just I mean,
29:04
quite openly a form of not only gaslighting in terms of how you actually
29:09
accomplished whatever it is you're accomplishing um
29:12
and selling the the lesser product to the rubes who are going to use
29:15
it in an attempt to approximate what you have done with many with very
29:19
different methods.
29:20
Uh but also a very effective monetizing of some of the most punishing forces
29:28
that bear down on women.
29:29
Like it would be I think insufficient to even say
29:34
that the Kardashian value proposition has long been repackaging an extreme almost like militaristic
29:42
24/7 catering to the male gaze,
29:45
catering to patriarchal expectations of what a woman should look like
29:50
or be or do
29:51
or wear um and reframing
29:53
that as some sort of feminist empowerment.
29:57
Um that is their business model.
30:00
Th- and again, I I'm shocked that anyone could like interpret that differently.
30:05
Like I'm shocked that anyone could like see see their their cultural value proposition
30:12
and think of it
30:12
as any different.
30:13
Um but yet we have been having to have this stupid debate about are
30:17
the Kardashians feminist for 20-plus years?
30:19
And I want to say I am no saint.
30:22
Like I love the Real Housewives franchise.
30:24
I watch a lot of Bravo.
30:25
I'm like very invested in like fluff pop culture and all of that.
30:29
I am not I I I don't judge anyone who's like watched the Kardashian
30:33
show or bought their products
30:34
or enjoyed following them on social media
30:36
or any of that.
30:37
I just think we can enjoy what we enjoy,
30:39
but also be lucid about it being garbage.
30:42
Like I watch like half the people on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills
30:47
are like actively committing fraud.
30:49
Do you know what I mean?
30:49
Like Erika Jayne should have should be in prison for the rest of her
30:52
life.
30:52
And like yeah, everyone's just watching her and saying how much her outfit slay.
30:57
Um I will say her what whatever
30:58
that doctor did to her face I don't know where she's getting
31:01
that money to to get all
31:03
that work done with
31:03
as much as her husband stole.
31:05
I thought the government had clawed it all back, but whatever.
31:08
Point being I that that's a major digression.
31:10
What I'm saying here is
31:11
that I'm not even saying
31:12
that we can't enjoy things
31:13
that are bad for us,
31:14
but I think we could at least acknowledge
31:16
that like some of the forces
31:17
that they are pushing forth in our culture
31:19
and some of the narratives
31:20
that they are reinforcing are probably a net negative for the women who have
31:25
to live with the after effects of it
31:26
and don't necessarily have endless millions of dollars to invest in conforming to those
31:31
same standards.
31:32
To me, this is sort of like the business version of that.
31:36
I don't doubt that for a Kardashian CEO who can hire a an army
31:40
of domestic employees to care for her children
31:43
or clean her home
31:44
or cook her food
31:45
or do whatever that being in the office all the time
31:49
and really and only advancing other people who are also very dedicated to the
31:54
office,
31:54
that probably works out great for you.
31:57
That culture probably is only oriented in your benefit
32:01
because like those male executives you don't necessarily feel the blowback of it.
32:06
But what we are now creating is standards
32:08
that other people who don't have those resources,
32:11
in this case other women who don't have those resources,
32:14
also have to exist under.
32:16
And for them, not for example being able to pick up their child in
32:21
the middle of the afternoon
32:22
and then get right back to work
32:23
and add on 20 minutes at the end of the day means
32:25
that they will then have to pay for hours more of child care
32:28
because let's say latchkey won't keep them past a certain hour,
32:32
which is a very common issue.
32:33
Like the knock-on effects of this also with gas prices being what they are
32:37
even just getting to
32:38
and from the office is becoming insanely out of reach for a lot of
32:42
people.
32:43
It does not shock me that this book is popular.
32:45
It does not shock me that it came from a Kardashian CEO.
32:48
It does not shock me
32:49
that people are defending things like remote work being bad for women by saying
32:54
she doesn't think it's a good thing.
32:56
She's just acknowledging reality
32:57
and giving good practical advice for how women can get ahead.
33:02
I borderline think that's worse.
33:03
If your position with what you're doing with your incredibly sort of powerful far-reaching
33:09
media megaphone is yeah,
33:11
this is bad, but this is the reality.
33:13
So just get with the program.
33:15
I think that's worse than if you genuinely believe it.
33:18
That's my take.
33:19
But again, this is not the first book like this.
33:21
It certainly won't be the last.
33:23
It just happens to be really popular right now.
33:26
The Kardashian I'm going to be talking about the Kardashians until I die,
33:28
I fear.
33:29
Um And anyway, that's all.
33:32
Uh I will uh see you guys around the channel.
33:35
I said what I had to say.
33:35
Bye.
Thích
Chia sẻ
The Financial Diet
Xem tất cả →
B2
Tài chính
53:48
What Happens When No One Has A Job Anymore?
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
1:14:45
Everyone Is Pretending They Have Money | Just Getting Good
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
53:55
The New American Dream: Moving To Europe
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
28:15
8 Things To Know If You're Not Sure You Want Kids
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
32:12
ariana grande & the failure of choice feminism
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
44:05
Polyamory Won't Fix Your Problems
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
40:07
millennials need to accept that we're middle aged lol
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
50:07
we need to talk about belle burden's insane memoir again
The Financial Diet
Video gợi ý
B2
Tài chính
53:48
What Happens When No One Has A Job Anymore?
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
1:14:45
Everyone Is Pretending They Have Money | Just Getting Good
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
53:55
The New American Dream: Moving To Europe
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
28:15
8 Things To Know If You're Not Sure You Want Kids
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
32:12
ariana grande & the failure of choice feminism
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
44:05
Polyamory Won't Fix Your Problems
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
40:07
millennials need to accept that we're middle aged lol
The Financial Diet
B2
Tài chính
Karaoke
50:07
we need to talk about belle burden's insane memoir again
The Financial Diet