YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF IN 2026 - David Goggins Motivation

and you're in hell week and you're hour one of 130 hours.

All you want to do is go back home.

You want the warmth.

You may want something to eat.

You want your girl to hold you.

All those things of comfort are there in that one second.

And this is where people lose how hard that training is.

I don't expect anybody to understand it but 1%.

But the loud voices of this world are the 99% who don't understand exactly

what you have to do.

So I end up doing like almost like backto-back 200 mile runs.

So I got lost the first time.

I got seriously sick, was off course.

So basically I bed down about 12 hours.

Then I got back in the race.

So I was still part of the official race now.

Got back in the race after 12 hours of being out of the race.

So now I get to about 200

and some odd miles

and I'm sick as hell.

Can't breathe.

How to pulmonary edema.

Now the doctor tells me

if you get off course now

and you go to the doctor,

you won't be able to come back and finish the race.

So I had to make a a call.

So this is where you're talking about.

I'm literally laying in bed and I'm feeling better.

I thought, honestly, I swear to God,

I thought that someone was speaking to me.

It was like, "You're not done yet, motherfucker."

It was actually probably my subconscious saying, "Get your ass back out there."

>> This isn't for glory.

>> No, this is now for the fact that you can.

So either you can sit here

and not and think about

that for a whole year

or you can go out there for yourself

and take some some kind of pride in knowing

that you could and you did.

You figure it out by going inside yourself by callousing over the victim's mentality.

You're always a victim even

if you have everything in life until you realize what you've achieved.

And they don't they forget

that and it takes a very very unique person

and unique mind to do some of these jobs

that are necessary in this world.

So we are the only access we have to save ourselves.

Mental hardening, mental toughness, it's a perishable skill.

Just because you went through some training once

and you got through it doesn't mean it lastsing forever.

And that's where most people hated me

because I realized that you recalling everything

and you definitely must recall

when it comes to the mind.

That is one of the biggest require everying day.

A lot of people, man, how do you do what you do?

At the end of the day, I ask myself one question.

Can I take one more step?

And usually the answer is yes.

So if you can answer that question and not take another step,

that is real failure.

So a lot of people can take one more step

if they choose not to.

I don't know if you can take two steps.

You got to answer that question after you take the first step.

But I can always take one more step.

So if I choose not to, that's on me.

And I got to live with that.

All the times that I was like, this is I I'm not going back.

And I went back.

I'm not going back.

And I went back.

I'm not going back and I went back.

It showed me even more of what we have

as as as humans

if we're willing to go there

and we're willing to push

that extra step.

I'm always looking for more.

I'm always looking for what's the next thing for myself.

How can I grow?

And that right there was next thing for me.

I had to take myself to the sewer to show people, hey,

I I you know, I I come from hell.

Once you come face to face with who you are,

you have a starting point.

All right, I'm not real smart.

I have no courage.

I have no self-esteem.

I have no nothing.

Nothing.

That's my starting point.

Now, we can move from there.

>> What do you think most people get wrong about motivation?

>> They think it's a permanent fix.

They think it's something that that is a constant.

They think that maybe once I get it,

I'm going to hold on to it.

It's nothing is permanent.

Nothing is permanent.

And a lot of times you have to learn to perform without motivation.

You have to learn to perform without purpose.

You have to learn to perform a lot of different things.

And that's what people think.

that think I need to have this motivation to work out,

to study, to be better.

So, if they don't have it, they just don't do it.

And that's where you fail.

You have to learn to train your mind well beyond motivation.

If you have motivation, that's great.

That's some kindling to the fire.

All it takes is a little bit of inspiring.

You can burn a whole forest up.

But motivation, you have to learn to exist without it.

You have to learn to be,

you have to be your best self when you're least motivated.

And that's the tricky part about all that.

Motivation is just a word.

You have to have these different things in your mind on where you want

to go and know

that motivation is not going to get me there cuz I'm not going to

always be motivated.

>> Joo said the exact same thing.

He said that discipline eats motivation for breakfast.

But without a clear headsp space, there's no discipline.

Discipline is great.

Motivation is great.

But if you can't fit in your brain because it's alling cluttered with,

there's no discipline.

Let me use hell week.

This is a perfect example.

Hell Week's 130 hours.

And 130 hours is a lot of seconds.

Let's say you're in extreme cold water

and your life is flashing before your eyes.

Every time that wave goes over your head, your thought process is,

I got to get the out of this water.

>> What are you waiting on?

>> And you're in hell week and you're hour one of 130 hours.

And then this is where that one second decision comes in.

You forgot every reason why you wanted to be there.

You don't care about seals.

You don't care about any of this You don't care about fighting for your

country.

You don't care about that goddy gold trident that they put on your chest.

You don't care about any of that no more.

All you want to do is go back home.

You want the warmth.

You may want something to eat.

You want your girl to hold you.

All those things of comfort are there in that one second.

And this is where people lose what I do in

that one second because we all think about quitting

when it's hard.

But what you have to do in

that one second is hard to process information during pain

because that pain takes over

and you can't think rationally.

You're thinking about fight or flight.

Save yourself.

That's not a rational thought.

It's not a thought that's going to get you through hard times.

Most people fail that one second.

So what happens, what I do,

I physically stayed in that water because if I get out of the water,

I quit.

So I physically stay in the water,

but mentally I'm on the beach with the instructors.

I'm still in the water physically, but mentally I'm back with I'm chilling.

And I got my Parker on.

And now I'm thinking logically cuz I'm warm now.

Mentally I'm warm.

I've taken that one second.

Let's not quit yet, guys.

Let's think about your options.

Where are you going to end up

if you quit this Where are you going to go?

I calm my brain down cuz your brain just wants to get the out.

Ring the bell.

Put your helmet down.

Get warm.

And then you're really

And these are the things you have to think about the one second decision.

So that's what that's all about.

It's about gaining control of your mind and then saying,

I really do want to be here

and I'm going to have a bunch of these 1 seconds through this 130

hour journey and I have to learn to control these cuz

if I fail one of these 1 seconds,

I will not be a seal.

I will not be a doctor.

I will not be a lawyer.

I will not be whatever the it is.

So that's how important that one second decision is.

It's all about your mind takes control of you.

You have to say, "Fuck you.

I run this mother."

And that's what that's all about.

Why do I think people are drawn to advice telling them to do hard

things?

Because I think any person,

any human realizes that if you want some kind of a good outcome,

you're going to have to work hard for it.

And if you and if you don't work hard for something,

you're not going to get an outcome that's really worth much.

One day that thing's going to come up.

And if you're not constantly performing without purpose,

you're not going to be ready when the time comes.

It's this magical thing purpose that we're all looking for.

But we don't take a second to realize the purpose never leaves us

because the very purpose is you.

You are always the purpose.

Motivation is a feeling that comes and goes.

And it doesn't matter whether it's there or not.

Discipline is infinitely more important.

So no matter how you feel,

get up and do what you're supposed to do.

That's it.

And that's discipline.

It's not motivation.

If you only did what you were supposed to do

when you were motivated to do it,

that's leaving it to chance.

But if you're disciplined, you go do what you're supposed to do.

That's the way it works.

when I realized that I can learn through hard work

and I can beat the val Victorian of school,

but I got put in 10 hours more a day than he does.

You know what kind of strength comes from that?

When you're sitting down

and that guy that

that valance lady for an hour

and you know I caught you.

I caught you and I am dumb

but I have the work ethic to catch you.

That's where David Gaga got really invented.

>> You know what's the future?

It's tomorrow.

The future is oh the weekend.

That's the future.

You don't realize, oh, there's you can actually set yourself up.

What you're doing today is connected to the future.

This isn't working.

The way you are doing this is not working.

And I told you this

and I told you

that and I told you the other thing.

And what I'm trying to say is

that you need to change this part of your game.

I mean hearing uh Gogan's stories about his three times through

and I mean he got he was not due to quitting right I mean

his mentality was prepared to take him further than his body was twice you

are ready to do the thing

and you may have done everything perfectly

and there's something something outside of your control in your physiology

that said no >> nope >> you don't get to do this >> yeah

the seal training is not fair at all.

>> It's not fair at all.

And there's I'm sure there's good guys

that don't make it

because they just physically can't handle it.

For the most part, if you don't make it,

it's cuz you didn't make it.

>> Listen, it's not what I want.

You know, I back down.

I have a problem with that.

So, that's just the way it is.

>> Like, they have guys >> way more people

that ring the bell than have blown out knees

or whatever.

>> It's It's 80 It's probably 85 90% that ring out.

I spent so much time.

People always like, "Why do you run so much?"

You know, you, you know, try to get in shape.

No, the things I do in life, most of life, you're alone.

You may have a whole support crew around you, but up here, you're alone.

Most of the stuff I do, I'm training for that one.

Those moments, those moments

when I was at mile 70

and I had 30 more miles to go

and I had I crapped up my back

and pee and blood down my leg. got 30 mi to go.

There's only so much someone charity can do for you, >> right?

>> When you start to dive back in the cellar of your mind

and you're pulling out all these all these tactics,

all these mental tactics to get through this 30 miles

when you're in the worst shape of your life

and no one's coming to save you

and you get through

that.

I I want to go back there.

When I got done with that race,

I laid in the tub

and my ex-wife helped me get up the stairs

and I'm laid in this tub

and Coca-Cola is coming out of me just like dirt

and she and you know she's a nurse

and she's like she's freaking out

and she puts the shower on me

and I'm looking at her

and all I want to do is call the race director up of Bowwater

saying I qualify for the race

and she's thinking we got to go to the hospital.

So, you know, she's she's calling my mom

and my mom has a doctor friend of hers who's over

and they're freaking out.

And I said, "Everybody just shut up."

>> Wow.

>> Shut up.

I'm in the worst pain in my entire life.

And no one would ever understand this.

No one.

When you've gone that deep inside yourself

and all those feelings of pain

that I had,

I was in the worst pain of my life ever.

And some people think, man, you're just crazy.

No.

When you've when you've done

that and you figured out

so much on your own

and all that pain

and discomfort I had in

that tub laying there passing out everything was confirmation of what I just figured

out.

I just figured out the code.

You have to be willing to go there.

You have to be willing to really go there.

Not not surface.

I don't I don't live on the surface of anything.

>> Yeah.

Surface is what got me where I was at.

It got me from 175 lbs to 300 lb.

Telling everybody I'm good.

I don't I don't give a damn.

I'm good.

No, they're they're hollow words.

>> A lot of us speak in hollow words.

I used to speak in hollow words.

>> I don't do anymore.

Everything that comes out of mouth has substance.

It's real.

>> They don't know me, son.

Get it.

>> They don't know me, son.

>> We all have these feelings in our bodies, in our minds, in our souls.

I act on mine.

A lot of us who are afraid of something,

we allow our minds to choose the path of least resistance.

So we go a different route.

I'm afraid of something is telling me you must conquer that.

You must do that.

>> Yeah.

>> You have to go that way.

>> And most of us don't understand that mentality.

>> So I think there's some inherent characteristic of a person

that your environment plays a role

but it can be overcome by determination.

And I think you probably have a lot more control over what you do

in your life than your background does.

The fact that you get to forge whatever the path is

that you want to go forward like

that to me is especially

as someone that like I say maybe grew up feeling feeling a little bit

helpless.

Uh the fact that you realize hang on

if I if I put this amount of work in

and I dedicate myself

and I'm committed and

so on and so forth.

The fact that you can come out the other side of

that and realize that it has real world returns to you is it's phenomenal.

>> Yeah.

That kind of recognition is what allows people to move on in life

and take control of their life

and make things happen.

>> That is why if people can make up a mission statement,

an ethos in which they want to live by

and every morning you wake up,

you hold yourself accountable to that mission, not accompanies your own.

Make up your own mission statement.

What do you want to be in life?

And once you do that now, you can work with somebody to get better.

You can work with yourself to get better.

But until you know what you want to stand for,

you will always just be sitting down.

You'll never stand for anything.

The the world's too noisy.

Your mind needs quiet for you to find who you are.

People ask, "What's my purpose?

Why am I here?"

You're not going to find it nowadays unless you lock yourself in a quiet

room in your mind.

And when you are constantly reflecting on who you are, where you've been,

the journey you've gone through, the journey you can continue going through,

the feeling is always there.

You don't allow the world to pull you so fast that you forget.

You don't allow yourself to pull you so fast that you forget.

It's not about staying in that moment.

It's about you want to get to the point where

that feeling follows you like breathing >> becomes a part of your life part

of your DNA but it's made like these callus is on my hands right

now they're made >> they are now on my brain this is now a

part of me >>

so you have to detach from your emotions you have to get control of

them and you have to make sure

that you lead your your men in the right direction

so they don't do something

that is not the right thing to do.

And for me, like the minute I feel some sort of anger,

some sort of jealousy, some sort of frustration, most of the time I go,

"Oh, you're getting mad."

That's your ego.

That's your That's you're getting emotional about this.

Take a step back and listen to what the other person is saying.

Take a step back and try and see it from their perspective.

Take a step back and try and understand what they're trying to say.

What's amazing about the human mind is that it becomes your new norm.

Like to to to think that I can run 200 miles, 240 mi,

and that becomes like running 50.

I never thought that was possible.

This is why I'm I'm always pushing

that limit because I know

that within pushing these limits,

there's always more.

There's going to be things in your life

that you don't have control over

or much of the time people say that's not my fault.

There's nothing I can do about that.

When when there's something that's not right, when there's something going wrong,

it it's something that I it's a mistake that I made.

I did something wrong.

Cuz I can just about guarantee

that everything is my fault.

as far as as like

as an individual person,

there's going to be things in your life that you don't have control over.

You know, one of the one of the early questions

that I got asked about this,

you know, like for instance,

someone gets a terrible disease

and you or their kids gets gets a terrible disease,

a random disease that's at through no fault of anyone,

the kid gets sick or the person gets sick.

And no, there's nothing you can do about

that. what you can take ownership

though is how you respond to

that situation.

And so that's what you have to do.

There's things that you can control.

There's things you can't control.

Now, I will tell you

that human beings can control a lot more than they think they can.

And often times it's pretty easy just to say, "Oh, that's not me.

That's not on me."

And I think that's that's the whole genesis of the idea of extreme ownership

is most of the time

or much of the time people say,

"That's not my fault.

There's nothing I can do about that."

And more often than people think, there is something you can do about it.

And you can and it is your fault.

>> What was the greatest lesson your mom taught you growing up?

>> She doesn't know how much she taught me

because she wasn't much in the teaching mode.

My dad took her soul.

>> But what I did as a young kid is I observed everybody.

I wasn't really smart in the books.

Yeah.

>> But I was real smart when it came to life.

>> Yeah.

And I was able to sit back and watch her mistakes.

I was able to see how she struggled through life

and how I don't want to struggle through life.

She never picked me up.

The biggest thing she did for me, and this is honest to God truth,

and she doesn't even know she did it.

>> When I would bust my ass, and I would fail.

>> Yeah.

>> When I was at the bottom of the sewer, she never picked me up.

She never gave me that cookie and said, "Hey, son, you know,

it's going to be okay."

It's never she didn't have time for that.

And sometimes she gets upset

when I talk about my past

because it it it paints her out to be not the best mom.

If I had any kind of mom in that kind of environment,

I would have never made it because she forced me forever reason.

She forced me to You better figure this out

or you're going to be a statistic.

>> Wow.

>> And this is something that she didn't sit down and tell me.

I realized this.

This is the world that is in front of me.

And what most people do is they see this world

and they look at it

as an excuse to get out of it.

>> I started looking at it

as this is the ultimate training ground for the rest of my life.

>> I have all these valuable lessons cuz

if you look out in the world right now today,

it's not a nice place, but I'm very prepared for it.

I'm prepared for it.

I'm prepared for all the failure coming my way.

>> And what I realized was

that the guys that were working harder for the most part were good seals.

Now, there were look, there's just some people that are just way talented.

They'd show up, you know,

3 minutes before a run

or 3 minutes before we do a shooting competition

and they could just walk through it,

no problem.

>> Right.

>> And and that's great for them.

It wasn't me.

I wasn't I'm not that great at anything,

but I saw other guys that might not be a great at anything either,

but they worked hard.

They showed up to work early.

They did the drills that they were supposed to do.

They had discipline.

You don't just wake up

and just rocky You got to wake up

and think about,

you know, there's a process to getting better and that process is never finished.

So, one of the things

that I've been thinking about is the danger of success making you soft.

And this must be something that you've battled with over the last few years.

More money, more attention, more fame,

more free things if you wanted more opportunities to go places

and do stuff with people.

How have you dealt with this battle of success not making you soft?

>> You have to cap it.

You have to learn to cap success.

And what I mean by capping success, I believe everybody should live their life.

So everything that someone says in life, take it with a grain of salt.

Take what they give and don't be like, "Oh,

David Gogggin said this or whoever said this."

No.

Do not take what I say and do exactly what I say.

So for me, what makes me who I am

because my mission is very different than yours

or anybody else's.

I have to go into a situation knowing, okay,

I'm a guy who wants to make people better.

For people to get better, I have to continuously get better myself.

For me to do that, I can't just say, I have this resume.

The resume is there forever.

I'm good.

I have to cap my success because for me to help people out,

I can't just say, I did it once and I'm good.

I have to continue to reinvent the wheel of the mind

and that is evolution.

You must continue to evolve

and you don't evolve for me in my job unless I cap myself somewhere

and say,

"Okay, you made this much money.

Get back to work.

It's time to get back to work.

Stop hearing yourself talk.

Get off the podcast.

Don't be on social media too much.

Cut out all the noise. get back to the mental lab

because that's where the knowledge came from.

>> But where do you go to?

You wake up on a morning, it's cold, it's wet, it's dark.

>> Keep talking.

>> You've got these problems.

It's warm on the couch.

Your MS says stay in bed.

It's comfy.

It's cozy.

You've got work later on.

You had an argument last night.

You're slightly hung over.

>> This is how you level up.

That's how you level up.

I know there's a whole bunch of people,

but that right there that fires me up,

that brings joy to my life right there.

Like, cuz I know there's

so many people that have the ability

and just refuse to get off

that couch,

refuse to study a few more hours, refuse to go deeper, to go further.

And that's where I gained the advantage.

It's so easy to be great nowadays, my friend, cuz most people are weak.

Most people don't want to go to that extra mile.

Most people don't want to find that extra cuz it sucks.

It's miserable.

It's lonely.

So that's the only purpose I need.

So the reason I get up every day even

though there's no race

or there's no school,

there's nothing in front of me is

because I have pride in myself. everybody else feels

or to me it always seems like everyone else has got it together >>

cuz I get to see only what you choose to say only what I'm

around you doing that I get to see whereas I get to observe my

own inefficiency and foibless 10,000 times a second right I get to watch the

texture of my own mind be completely unresponsive

and useless I see every single prideful decision every single lie

that I tell myself every single time I make a promise

and don't keep it.

>> Mhm.

>> But I don't get to see that from everyone.

So I'd always presume

because of this asymmetry

that everybody else had it sorted

and I didn't.

And it also made me think that everybody else's opinion was this perfectly balanced,

wellressearched, beautifully it was it was they had they had me nailed down to

a tea.

What they were telling me was the truth.

>> They could see something in me that I couldn't.

And after a little bit of time

and a good bit of building up of self-confidence,

I realized that that's not the case.

>> No.

>> Before you get your feelings hurt by

that bully at school

or that boss at work,

take time.

Take that one second to pull back and study them.

Because most people who are in good places,

they don't care about what you're doing.

They don't try to destroy you. for you to be this person who comes

on and lies and tries to literally tear down everything I've worked for,

you are in a very, very bad place.

I've learned to study people before I react

because there's no successful person in the world who's in a good headsp space

that's going to ever attack anyone in

that kind of manner.

There's always going to be something wrong with them.

I think if you got to see the inner texture of the people who

don't like you's existence,

you'd feel more pity than anger.

>> I know why you hate me.

You hate me because you're probably in the bed right now.

You're probably an underachiever.

You're probably somebody who doesn't want to do anything with your life.

So, I make you question everything about yourself.

So, I'm going to continue making you question yourself by coming out here

and being even more successful.

Maybe you can't find your why because you're lazy.

Maybe you can't find your why because you have zeroing ambition.

What's your biggest fear?

My biggest fear was dying that 300 lb man,

never knowing I can be who I am today.

A lot of us are wasteful.

But we're wasteful who we are in life.

You got to change your mindset to know my whole job now is at

4:00 in the morning I get the kicked out of me for 18 months.

You got to create that new norm.

That has to be your lifestyle.

You are the master of your own mind.

Create that masterpiece.

Who's going to carry the boats and the logs?

Not you, buddy.

Some of you just don't understand.

Some of you been average for so damn long,

you don't know what it is to do hard work.

But there's a lot of you out there who want to be much more

than average,

but just don't know how to do it every single day.

The grind.

The struggle is real.

It never gets any easier.

You got to get harder.

No one cares what you did yesterday.

It only matters doing today.

>> They don't know me, son.

>> Get it.

A >> They don't know me, son.

Get it. 19, son.

>> Yeah.

>> How you doing?

>> I'm back, motherucker.

>> I'm back.

>> All of this is all confirmation.

Got me back.

I get better when I'm digging holes in the ground,

when I'm waking up early knowing I don't have to do these things.

That's where I get better.

>> So, it's important to stay hungry.

>> It's important to stay hungry,

but it's important more to stay humble within that hunger.

So, while you're hungry, a lot of people are hungry, but humility is everything.

What was that story about William Crawford, the janitor?

>> Yeah.

So, this guy won the Medal of Honor.

So, he won the Medal of Honor

and which is the highest award in the military

and this guy went to the Air Force Academy

and he was a janitor

and no one knew who the this man was.

He had the highest award in all the military for heroics.

For heroics.

Saving lives. putting his life on the line, you know,

could have been killed and he is now basically, you know,

cleaning shares for young kids.

And we can all imagine how that probably went. you know, there's probably some,

you know, little bit of taunting here

and there and he just sat there

and cleaned the stair.

So, that's why he's in my trained humility part

because for this man to be at the level he was

and had that kind of humility to go,

I'm a Medal of Honor winner,

but I'm going to put

that in my closet

and I'm going to pick up my broom

and dustpan and I'm going to pick up,

you know, this rag and clean this for these young men.

That right there is amazing for me, man.

That's that's where you grow.

That's that's growth. huge growth

and also it shows

that he was doing his job.

He was a servant.

He didn't look at himself any better than anybody else.

The second you do that, you totally lost.

You cannot look at yourself like people with me even.

I always look at people I I know where you are.

I know where cuz I've been there.

That's why I help so many people out.

I've I've never been above you.

I've always pretty much been beneath you.

And that's where my knowledge came from.

So I know how to reach those people who are in the dungeon

because I've been there

so many times.

You have to be your best self and your least motivated.

And that's the tricky part about all that.

Motivation is just a word.

You have to have these different things in your mind on where you want

to go and know

that motivation is not going to get me there cuz I'm not going to

always be motivated.

>> Joo said the exact same thing.

You said that discipline eats motivation for breakfast.

And discipline is good, too.

But without a clear headsp space, there's no discipline.

Here's what you mean.

So, let's say we have a circuit breaker, okay?

And I'm loading everything up to one circuit.

Just load it up.

It's going to blow.

And once that thing blows, man, the circuit's all up.

You got to have each thing plugged into the right spot like aing crowded

garage.

You can't put anything in it.

Once your brain is crowded, discipline is great.

Motivation is great.

But if you can't fit in your brain

because it's alling cluttered with there's no discipline.

You may have it sometimes

when it fits in

that crowded garage of your mind,

but you don't have the consistency that you need to have with that discipline.

I call it mental zones is you're organizing your mind

so you can put

that discipline.

So a lot of people talk about discipline.

Okay, great.

Why do you fall off the wagon?

Why can't I continue with this routine?

Going to the gym, being better, waking up early, eating the right foods.

It's because maybe it's your kids, maybe it's your wife, maybe it's your job,

and it's all just stuffed in youring brain.

You don't have it compartmentalized and organized in these nice shelves.

A lot of people whose brain, hey, where's my demos?

Uh, let me look.

They're throwing.

They're looking through totes are all up.

So, where am I going to put discipline in

that mind if I can't find other?

You got to be able to find all these different things in your mind.

Oh, I can put discipline right there.

If your life is not organized

and your life being everything around you

because it takes one little d piece of outside interference to clutter your whole

mind your mind has to always be clear that's why I meditate 2 hours

every single night because I refresh I reorganize the garage

which is my mind every night.

So then discipline's in there, organization, everything is in this right spot.

I'm waking up and I'm giving myself all this armor.

So when I come out in the world, I'm ready.

I'm not waking up late.

I'm not rushing around.

I'm not disorganized.

So when I wake up, I'm ready to go.

Once you put away your phones

and your computers and all

that we have nowadays,

your brain is the only thing you have when you're going through depression,

when you when you're going through hard times, when you're going through death,

real life You can't Google that man.

You're alone.

You're alone.

You may have a shrink you're going to.

You may have a best friend you're going to,

but there's 24 hours in the day where you're alone in this brain

and your brain is talking to you in all kind of ways

and it wants to control you

and pull you in these different pockets.

If you can't control your own brain and your brain controls you,

you're You got to tell your brain where you want to go

and how you want to go

and how you want to get there.

You got to control it.

If not, it's over.

It's over.

All I knew back then was hard work.

You got to work hard.

You got to work hard.

I can't get this paragraph.

I can't remember what the in this paragraph to pass this test to get

in the military.

Read again.

If you're not getting it, read again.

But if you're not getting it, write it out.

And that's how I started learning.

I realized if I keep going back

and going back and going back until the just becomes your mind will say

Okay,

we're going to figure it out.

It'll find a way because he is not going to stop.

It's not like I'm going to try one more time.

No, wrong alarm clock goes off.

We're going back.

I can't read right.

We're going back.

I gave myself no way out and my mind realized that.

They said, "Okay, we're going to adapt and overcome now."

That was my mindset.

And that's how you get through things.

You put yourself, you immerse yourself wherever it is and you become that.

I became hell and that became my new norm.

I gave myself no way out.

There was nothing outside these walls of hell.

Nothing.

I watched this segment on TV about these guys going through Navy Seal training

and I couldn't even I I wasn't a great swimmer.

I was afraid of the water.

All this crap, man.

I saw these guys just quitting.

But at the very end, it says 22 guys,

this commanding officer is up there and he gives this great speech.

So I started visualizing me being the 23rd guy sitting there with these guys.

I said, "Man, if I could feel that, that would change my life."

>> And what was that feeling you wanted so bad?

Respect, accomplishment, >> victory.

I wanted to win.

Not like beat somebody else.

It wasn't about that.

I I I just wanted to go the distance.

Everything in my life, when something got hard, I quit.

I had to work harder than you.

So I quit like, man, if I could just go that distance,

that extra mile to just go just to finish.

I want to finish.

I want to feel victory.

And victory for me wasn't winning.

It was just finishing.

So I said, you know what?

If I could feel like these guys feel, it would change my life.

And literally I started feeling victory just by putting myself in the battle.

I started realizing man just by going to war with myself every day

and putting these challenges

and these goals and these obstacles,

these insurmountable obstacles, now we can move from there.

But if you look at it as, man,

I'm broken and I'm still here

and I'm fighting and I'm going find a way to get through this cuz

I have no other place to go.

It gives you a lot of power.

And no one really finds themsself without going through trials, tribulations, suffering, accountability.

And accountability is suffering.

Being accountable every day for doing right for yourself,

for the people next to you, it's miserable.

The more I did this, the more I gained confidence.

And then the more I gained confidence, the more I realized, these Navy Seals,

man.

The these guys can't do what I'm doing right now.

I had no coach, had no trainer, had no money.

I didn't know how to lose weight.

I had no knowledge of what I was doing.

I was just working.

I was just sacrificing.

But I would have never found these tools

if I didn't put myself in a very uncomfortable place.

And your true self is found in that very uncomfortable zone.

That's where he came from.

He came from all these up obstacles and now he's there.

So everybody goes, "How do you do that?"

You know exactly how to do that.