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Success Is Hard Until You Build Systems Like This
Success Is Hard Until You Build Systems Like This
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This video is all about how you can achieve more success in your personal
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or professional life by building systems.
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So, we're going to talk about the philosophy of this, why systems are important,
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and what the difference is between people who have systems and people who don't.
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And in the second part of the video,
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I'm going to go through five systems
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that I think you should totally incorporate into your life
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if you haven't already,
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because they will drastically,
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drastically increase your chances of achieving whatever your own personal definition of success actually
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is.
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And if you're new here, hello, my name is Ali,
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I'm a doctor turned entrepreneur
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and author of the New York Times bestseller Feel Good Productivity,
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and this channel is all about the books
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and ideas and strategies
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and tools that can help us achieve financial freedom,
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live life on our own terms, and ultimately build a life that we love.
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So, if that sounds good, you might like to hit the subscribe button,
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but now let's dive into the video.
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All right, so let's start out with a definition.
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So, we are all trying to work towards this thing that we call success,
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but what the hell does success actually mean?
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There are lots of different definitions,
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people have their own like ways of defining this, but in my opinion,
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you would generally consider yourself successful
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if you've achieved or
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if you're actively working towards goals
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that you intrinsically care about.
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I would say your life is kind of successful
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if you're working towards those goals in a balanced way.
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So, for example, I wouldn't call it massive success if, you know,
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you're single-mindedly focused on just this one thing,
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but then you've like wrecked your health
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and your relationships and your life along the way.
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I wouldn't personally think of that as being success.
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And finally, success is where you are actually enjoying the journey along the way,
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because ultimately, you could have success, you could have the nicest house,
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you could have the fanciest job, you could have the biggest business,
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but if you haven't enjoyed the journey of getting there,
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it will very much feel hollow,
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because you'll get to
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that destination and you'll realize
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that that is not where happiness
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and salvation is actually to be found.
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Now, in order to achieve our goals,
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we basically need to take a series of actions.
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If we take the right sort of actions
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and do them for long enough
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and consistently enough,
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we are more likely to get to our goals.
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In order to have a generally balanced life,
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we kind of need a somewhat reasonable diversity of goals
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and a therefore diversity of actions across the different domains of our life.
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For example, our professional and personal life, our work, our health, our relationships,
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our hobbies.
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And in order to have enjoyment along the way, to be honest,
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a lot of it comes from our approach to things.
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Like if you approach stuff in a sort of playful way,
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if you approach things in a sincere rather than serious way,
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if you have an attitude and a mindset of non-attachment,
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like you're working towards your goals and you're doing stuff to get there,
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but you're not overly attached to any particular outcome.
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And of course, if you can drive intrinsic motivation for the goals
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that you're achieving,
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so rather than being motivated by external factors like I don't know,
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fame and money and what your society thinks you should do or whatever,
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you're actually motivated by intrinsic things, like you actually want to do the thing.
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Those are generally the factors that lead to enjoyment.
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And I would like to offer for your consideration in this video
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that if you build systems into your life,
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you're actually far more likely to achieve your goals,
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you're more likely to do the actions that are required to achieve your goals,
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you're more likely to have a balanced approach to the goals
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and the actions that you achieve
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and take,
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and you're also more likely to have enjoyment along the journey,
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all by building the right sorts of system into your life.
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So now let's try and define what actually is a system.
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And you can define a system
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as a network of interconnected things
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that lead to a particular result.
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And those things could be, for example, actions, or they could be processes,
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which are really just like sets of actions, or they could be checklists,
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which are again, really just sets of actions.
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So what you basically have is
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that a system is a step-by-step set of actions
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that leads to a particular result.
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And again, the whole point of this video is
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that I would like to argue
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that if you can take the approach of building more systems into your life,
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and basically systematizing your approach to your personal and professional life, in my opinion,
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you're far more likely to achieve success,
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whatever that definition of success is for you.
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Now, I want to give you a couple of examples here.
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So, imagine the world of aviation, right?
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Like pilots piloting airplanes.
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That is an enormously high-stakes situation,
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and the entire world of aviation is built around systems.
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Systems are the most important thing.
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There is a system to build the appropriate airplane.
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This is why basically all airplanes kind of look the same,
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because people have figured out a system for making airplanes fly.
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And so if you deviate too much from the system,
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you end up not building an airplane that flies.
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Let's take another high-stakes thing, like medicine.
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I used to be a doctor, in case you didn't know.
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And medicine is all about following a system.
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Yes, there is some level of like individual stuff that the doctors do.
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For example, like, you know, talking to the patient and making them feel nice.
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But, when you go
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and see a doctor
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and you talk to them about your problems,
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the doctor is actually following a system.
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One of the most popular systems is the Calgary-Cambridge method of patient interviewing,
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which is like a whole system for what sort of questions, as a doctor,
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you need to ask the patient in order to make sure
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that you've got all the symptoms
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and all the signs
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and all that kind of stuff.
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When the doctor examines you
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and listens to your heart
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and like examines your abdomen
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and all of that kind of stuff,
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again, they are following a system.
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They are not just making up as they go along.
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If they have lots and lots of experience, then yes, then, you know,
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the systematization of the thing for doctors starts to become second nature.
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They start to pattern recognize, and so, they're following a system,
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even though they often don't realize they're following a system,
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because the system has been
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so drilled into them
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that they can now kind of go a little bit off-script.
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But, even then, even
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if you're like a surgeon with 50 years of experience
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and you're like the world's best person,
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you still literally have to fill out a checklist before every single operation
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and at the end of every single operation to make sure
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that you've checked the boxes for the important stuff
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that the system needs to make sure the patient has a good result.
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Now, in our professional lives, in these sort of work environments,
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like in medicine or in aviation or in like Formula 1,
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the idea of building systems into it is like fairly standard.
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Like with your job, you probably have systems that you have to follow.
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Systems for HR, systems for marketing, sales, operations, finance, the whole shebang.
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Businesses are built on the idea of systems.
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And I would like to offer for your consideration
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that we can totally build those sorts of systems into our personal lives
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as well,
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for pretty much any goal that we want to work towards.
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And there is a really nice visual
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that I got from my friend Jeff Su
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that sort of describes the value of a system.
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So, if you imagine this kind of graph, we've got effort over here,
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and so, this is sort of what the line might look like
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if you're trying to do stuff without a system to it.
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Whereas, this is what the line looks like
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if you're trying to do something
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that does have a system attached to it.
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It will take a little bit more effort in the initial stages to build
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the system,
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but then very quickly the fact that you are now using a system,
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i.e. there is a systematized set of actions
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or processes or steps
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that you're going to follow,
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it takes actually quite a lot of work
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and quite a lot of effort out of the process of doing the thing.
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So, now let's get back to it.
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I'll give you a personal example. doing weight training
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when I started out for about 5 years,
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and I was not following a system.
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I was going to the gym a couple of times a week
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when I had the time,
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and I was kind of doing whatever I felt like.
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I was going with the flow.
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And sure, this was kind of fun.
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I'd go to the gym with my friends and stuff,
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but I made almost no progress in my physique
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or in my health levels
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or in any of those things
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because I wasn't I wasn't following a system.
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Recently, I started following a system.
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I got a personal trainer, and he programs my workouts,
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and I see him three times a week at the same time slot.
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We follow a similar kind of workout plan with progressive overload.
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There is a system behind the thing,
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and for the first time in my life,
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I'm finally seeing progress
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when I'm actually at the gym
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because I'm following a system.
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I'm not just screwing around
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and making stuff up
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as I go along
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and hoping for the best.
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I'm following a prescribed system
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that people have already figured out to get to a desired result,
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which is to try
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and attempt to get a little bit more jacked
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and to reduce my visceral fat levels.
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Let's take another example.
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Let's say you are starting a business
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and you're doing sales calls for the first time.
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Like you're getting on the phone
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or a Zoom call with your prospects
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and trying to sell them your product.
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Not having a system would be hopping on the call,
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making it up as you go along,
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just sort of vibing and going with the flow.
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Having a system means
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that you would have some kind of sales script
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that you would follow.
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You're probably saying a similar thing each time in the opening
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and in the closing.
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You have a list of objections that they might say, like, you know,
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the price is too expensive
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or I don't have the time
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or let me think about it,
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and you have defined responses
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that you figured out
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because you built a system around it.
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You have a system for following up with them.
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Now, in that world,
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the business that follows a system for their sales process is going to make
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way more money compared to the noob business
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that has no system around this
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because they're just sort of making stuff up
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as they go along.
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And this is the core idea behind why systems are way more likely to
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lead you to success
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because success,
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if you define it
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as achieving your goals with balance
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and enjoyment along the way,
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is really just about executing on a set of action.
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Now, if you are making up those actions every time depending on how you
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feel,
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you're a lot less likely to get to any particular goal compared to
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if you have a system
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or a set of processes
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that you're following every time.
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Now, after all of that opining,
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I would like to share with you five systems that I think,
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if you were to incorporate into your life,
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would drastically increase your chances of success.
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The first system that I think is incredibly helpful is some kind of goal-setting
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system.
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When it comes to achieving success,
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having goals is really important
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because then at least you know what you're aiming for.
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You don't have to be wedded to the goals,
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you don't have to be attached to them,
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you don't have to be upset
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if you don't manage to achieve a goal in the time frame
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that you wanted,
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but it's so useful to actually have a goal to shoot for in the
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first place.
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Now, the way most people do this is sort of like before they have
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a system,
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it's sort of like, you know,
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the New Year comes around
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and they'll sort of vaguely set some New Year's resolutions
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that I want to stop procrastinating
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or I want to go to the gym more often
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and they just they won't have a systematic approach to goal setting.
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And so what happens is
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that they start something
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and they sort of meander a little bit
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and then they quit
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or they start something else
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and they kind of go all over the place
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and then they quit
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or they set a goal for something else
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and then,
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you know, they've taken one step
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and then they quit
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and it's all this sort of like general kind of mess
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when you approach goal setting
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as something that you do ad hoc whenever you have the time
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and you just sort of try
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and figure it out
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as you go along.
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Whereas, after you have a system for goal setting
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and there are lots of them out there
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and I don't really care
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which one you use
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but like you can just Google it
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or ask ChatGPT or Claude to give you a system for goal setting.
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I've got my own it's called the GPS system there'll be some videos over
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there somewhere on the channel.
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But after you have a system for goal setting,
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you have a systematic process
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that you can follow every 3 months
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or every year or however frequently you want to do it.
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And so for example,
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my process starts with like vision where there's like a life compass section where
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you figure out like what you actually want your life to look like very
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long term and what what are your core values
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and that kind of stuff.
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Then we turn it into a 3-year sketch where you can use like a
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vision board or something to figure out where you want to be 3 years
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from now and then we make quarterly quests
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which are like 90-day goals.
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Again, all of this stuff will be linked down below cuz we've got videos
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on the channel about all this stuff
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so I'm not going to expand on it in too much detail.
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And then after we figured out our quarterly quests,
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we have a weekly process of like prioritization
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and reflection that I call the balanced week blueprint.
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And you might think
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that this stuff is a little bit much
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but like it doesn't take
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that long to do.
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It takes maybe a couple of hours to do like a life compass exercise
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to really figure out what direction you want to go with your life.
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It takes maybe half an hour to do like a vision board 3-year sketch.
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It's it's quite fun thing to do as well.
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It takes maybe half an hour every quarter to define quarterly quests.
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And what you're doing with this systematic approach to goal setting is
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that you're really trying to decide what are the small number of goals I
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actually want to work towards.
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And most of us go through life without really stopping back to zoom out
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a little bit and just actually think about this.
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It's so easy to get fixated on the day-to-day.
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We're too busy at work
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and then we get home
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and then there's the kids
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and the stuff and whatever
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and there's not enough time
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and not enough energy.
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And yet if we just take a few hours once in a
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while to zoom out
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and follow a systematic process for goal setting,
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we are far more likely to end up working towards goals
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that are intrinsically motivated,
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goals that we actually want to work towards,
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rather than casually working towards goals
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that are just a subconscious result of what society has told us,
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what our parents have told us, or what I don't know,
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the a previous version of our self decided to do.
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The second major system I would really recommend installing into your life is some
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kind of time management system.
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And again, I've made videos about this on the channel,
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they'll be linked down below if you want to check them out.
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But when it comes to achieving any goal at all, achieving every goal,
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as we talked about, is a series of actions.
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And in order to do those actions, we have to do some work.
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And there are generally three inputs into work, and that is time, energy,
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and focus, assuming you're the one doing the work.
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If you have a team and you have other team members doing the work,
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then you have the other metric of money
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because you're hiring the team
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and getting them to do the work stuff,
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but for the most part, time, energy,
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and focus are the three fundamental resources that individuals invest in doing work,
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taking actions to achieve goals, which ultimately, fingers crossed, leads us to success,
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whatever that definition of success is for us.
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And on a very basic level, the most important one of these is time.
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Time is the primary thing,
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because we only have 168 hours every week to do stuff. 168 hours.
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Most of us spend like 56 of those sleeping,
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and maybe another 12 of them eating and going to the toilet and stuff.
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So what that basically leaves is 100 hours.
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Nice round number.
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If you have a job and you have to I don't know,
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spend 60 You just, you know,
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you literally just got 40 hours left every single week to do all of
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the things that you want to do.
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If you imagine that like most people have a screen time of like 6
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hours a day,
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all of those 40 hours suddenly disappear.
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And so you realize very quickly,
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and maybe if you're the sort of person who watches this channel,
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and if you're at this point in the video,
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that like there's actually not
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that many hours in every week to do all of the things
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that you want to do.
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Which means that if we want to be able to do the work
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that helps us take the actions
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that helps us get to our goal,
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that helps us eventually get to success,
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we want to be good at managing our time
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and ideally instead of having to again make this up
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as we go along,
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ideally we have a system
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that makes it a lot easier for us to manage our time
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so that we can make time for the important stuff
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and get rid of the stuff
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that is less important.
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But, there are three key factors that I think everyone should have.
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Number one, a good time management system involves time blocking,
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which is basically where you stick blocks in your calendar for the stuff
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that is important to you.
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For example, I have a weekly date night with my wife.
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That is time blocked.
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I go to the gym three times a week.
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That is time blocked.
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I have two filming days a week where I work on YouTube videos.
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Those are time blocked in the calendar.
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The more you can intentionally decide how you want to be using your time
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ahead of time,
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rather than having to make a decision in the moment
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and then sort of being at the mercy of your mood
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or your energy levels,
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the easier it is to reliably do the actions consistently
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that are going to get you to your goals.
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That's not to say that you should have no room for spontaneity.
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You can totally have free time in the calendar
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as well where you can just do whatever you want.
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But, in general, the people
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that are most likely to achieve goals are the ones who actually make the
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time to achieve those goals.
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Perhaps unsurprisingly.
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Factor number two that every good time management system should have is a method
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for prioritization.
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Now, you probably have more things you would like to do compared to the
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time that you actually have to do them cuz you're probably an ambitious person
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and you have lots of goals
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and you want to live a healthy balanced life.
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But, as you've probably realized it's actually impossible to do all the things
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and so we need to prioritize what are the few
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that are the most important.
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And thirdly, ideally every good time management system should have some kind of component
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of reflection where you look at how you've been spending your time,
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you reflect on it,
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and then you use
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that reflection process to adjust your time blocking
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and prioritization system.
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For me, I try my best to do a weekly review
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or reflection and this is just a series of questions
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that I ask myself.
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It takes about 20 minutes
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and it's a good way of making sure
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that I'm continually re-aligning to the goals
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that I want to achieve
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and making changes to my schedule
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if like life happens.
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System number three that I think would benefit most people in their life is
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some kind of health optimization
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or health operating system.
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I call mine health OS cuz it's just kind of cute.
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And what this is is a system
15:20
that you can follow on autopilot
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that gets you to your health goals.
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So, this involves things like sleep and diet and exercise.
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Now, before you have some kind of system around your health,
15:30
you sleep roughly whenever you feel tired
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and you wake up whenever you want to wake up
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or or with your alarm
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if you have some kind of like work to go to.
15:37
Your diet is like you're
15:38
so you're sort of making it up
15:39
as you go along.
15:40
Your exercise, you're sort of doing random stuff whenever you can find the time
15:44
to do the thing.
15:44
And this is why most people are on average not particularly healthy.
15:47
But, if you're building a system into your life where you're following a set
15:50
of processes around your sleep,
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your diet, your exercise,
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then you're much more likely to be in a better place.
15:54
So, what might be the system for optimizing your sleep?
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Again, we have done videos about it.
15:57
I'll link them down below, but, you know,
15:59
getting 8 hours a night is generally very helpful.
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Having the room set to 19° C is generally very helpful.
16:04
That tends to be the temperature for most people that optimizes sleep.
16:07
Defining like when you want bedtime to be, like, "Hey,
16:09
I'm going to sleep 10:00 p.m. to 6:00 a.m."
16:10
or whatever,
16:11
generally helpful.
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The more you can stick to a consistent bed and wake time,
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the more your circadian rhythms actually line up
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and so the less likely you are to be tired
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or groggy or have low energy throughout the day.
16:20
Of course, there is the classic tip to view morning sunlight
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as per Andrew Huberman,
16:24
which is again helpful for entraining our circadian rhythm.
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You've got things like no phone in the bedroom,
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getting rid of your phone
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so that you're not like browsing TikTok
16:31
or Reddit at like 2:00 in the morning,
16:32
which is another thing that would destroy your sleep.
16:33
I personally like having a Kindle on my bedside table
16:36
because then if I'm struggling to go to sleep,
16:37
I can just read like a spirituality book
16:39
or something on Kindle
16:40
and that gets me to sleep pretty quickly.
16:42
If you want, you can use some kind of sleep tracker.
16:44
I wear a Whoop.
16:44
I've got like a I'm using this for the last like 380 days
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or something.
16:47
I've got a 380-day streak on it.
16:49
And so this gives me a sleep score.
16:50
And so generally with any kind of system,
16:52
having some sort of metric
16:53
that you can look at to see how effective is your system performing
16:56
and then being able to sort of adjust your system based on the metric
16:59
is generally quite helpful.
17:00
It's not absolutely essential,
17:01
but for most things having some way to measure the number actually does genuinely
17:04
help.
17:04
And all of these is just a series of steps.
17:06
And sure, most people don't do all of these things absolutely all the time,
17:09
but having a system
17:10
which is sort of a set of defaults
17:12
that you're going to follow most of the time is going to be way
17:14
more likely for you to have healthy sleep.
17:16
And obviously we know
17:16
that sleep is one of those things
17:17
that like contributes to every other area of our life.
17:20
When it comes to diet, if for every single meal, you know,
17:22
three meals a day for like 7 days a week,
17:24
if every single time you had to figure out what you want to do
17:26
in terms of what you're eating
17:27
or what you're cooking
17:28
or what you're buying from the grocery store,
17:30
A, you end up wasting a ton of time in like mental decision fatigue
17:33
and ordering random takeaways
17:35
and going to random restaurants
17:36
and then your calories
17:36
and macros and all
17:37
that kind of stuff are off
17:38
and then you end up being pretty unhealthy.
17:39
And so, what busy people
17:40
and especially people with kids tend to find is
17:42
that actually systematizing the household diet is really,
17:45
really, really helpful.
17:46
Like knowing that Tuesdays are like Chinese takeout Tuesdays,
17:49
knowing that Thursday is a movie night with the kids
17:51
and therefore we're going to order pizza,
17:53
knowing that like we're going to meal prep on the Sunday
17:55
and then batch prepare the breakfast for the whole week
17:57
and batch prepare the lunches for the whole week
17:59
so the kids can take them to school
18:00
or whatever the situation might be.
18:01
Almost everyone who you consider to be successful probably has some kind of system
18:05
for their diet and their nutrition.
18:06
It doesn't have to be fancy, it doesn't have to be private chef levels,
18:09
but just having a method
18:10
that you are following
18:11
which means you don't have to think about what the hell am I going
18:13
to eat for these 21 meals every single week will save you a huge
18:17
amount of time and also make you way healthier.
18:18
And then of course,
18:19
having some kind of system that you're following for your exercise.
18:21
What I do personally is weight training three times per week.
18:24
I try to do 40 minutes of zone two cardio through like casual running
18:27
about three times a week.
18:28
I aim to do yoga about one
18:30
or two times a week for general flexibility
18:31
and mobility and of course,
18:33
I aim to get 10,000 steps per day
18:34
because there's a good amount of evidence
18:36
that like the more steps you take the healthier you're going to be
18:39
and so I have a walking treadmill for my desk some of the time
18:41
as well.
18:41
And again, this is a system.
18:42
The gym sessions are in the calendar,
18:44
the runs should be more systematized for me cuz they're currently not.
18:46
I kind of make time for running when I when I have the time,
18:48
which is why I'm a lot less consistent with this than I am with
18:50
the gym where it's actually in the calendar.
18:52
And so, if you have some kind of system that you're following,
18:54
some set of default actions that you're taking every week,
18:57
your health is far more likely to be good compared to someone who does
19:00
not have that kind of system.
19:01
And it's like that phrase goes, the healthy man has 99 wishes,
19:05
the unhealthy man has only one.
19:06
If you are sick or unhealthy,
19:07
then that is a massive drain on practically every other area of your life
19:11
as well.
19:12
And so, you might as well follow some kind of system.
19:14
Again, if you're not sure, just ask ChatGPT,
19:15
watch some YouTube tutorials for like and it doesn't have to be fancy,
19:18
but it does take a lot of the guesswork
19:20
and a lot of the mental decision fatigue out of the process of keeping
19:23
on top of your health.
19:25
System number four that I think everyone would benefit from is some kind of
19:28
system to keep on top of the relationships
19:30
that matter to you the most.
19:32
Now, this is where it can sometimes sound weird being like,
19:34
why would you build a system for relationships?
19:36
Relationships shouldn't be systematized.
19:37
That's just not true.
19:38
Like if you ask any like marriage counselor
19:41
or marriage therapist or read any book about what makes a successful marriage.
19:44
Actually, what a lot of it comes down to is systems.
19:47
Making sure you have a weekly date night
19:49
and that it's in the calendar
19:50
and that both parties know
19:51
that it happens every Sunday evening,
19:53
for example.
19:54
That is an example of a system.
19:55
Doing something like regular relationship reviews,
19:57
maybe once a month where you
19:59
and the spouse or you
20:00
and your partner sit down
20:00
and actually reflect on the state of your relationship
20:02
and if there's any like minor grievances
20:04
that you haven't had a chance to bring up
20:05
and you talk about those things.
20:06
Again, sounds weird, but it's incredibly helpful.
20:09
Me and my wife were seeing a relationship therapist before we got married just
20:11
cuz I got some advice from a friend saying
20:13
that like relationship therapists are amazing.
20:15
And he recommended we do relationship reviews.
20:17
We read a couple of books about how to have a successful marriage
20:19
that also would bullish on relationship reviews.
20:21
This is a way of systematizing your relationship
20:23
so that you do the sensible things without having to think too hard about
20:26
them.
20:26
As you become super busy at work,
20:28
it's generally very helpful to block out holidays in advance.
20:31
So a lot of the most successful entrepreneurs I know really,
20:33
really take their personal life and their relationships very seriously.
20:36
And so at the start of the year,
20:37
before they do any of their business planning,
20:38
they will block out in the calendar, okay, this is holiday with the spouse,
20:42
this is holiday with the kids,
20:43
this is we're going to take all of August off for a sabbatical.
20:45
Because if you don't block all of that stuff out in advance,
20:47
then the work and life commitments will just sort of fill the gaps.
20:51
And so you've got to be intentional about blocking this stuff out in advance.
20:54
This is building a system around your relationships.
20:56
The most social people I know are not just randomly going to social events,
21:00
especially once they become adults and start having kids and start becoming busy.
21:02
They start doing standing order social events.
21:05
One of my friends in that who's very intentional about relationships,
21:07
he was like living in Austin for a few years,
21:09
and so he and his wife set up a weekly meet-up at the local
21:12
lake.
21:12
Anyone was invited, so they just invited all their friends.
21:15
They're like, "Hey, we're going to be at this lake 8:00 a.m. every Saturday
21:17
morning,
21:18
and then we're going to go for breakfast afterwards.
21:19
If you can make it, come join us."
21:21
And they did this every single week for 4 years,
21:23
and this was an amazing way for them to maintain relationships
21:26
and friendships with people
21:27
that they already knew.
21:28
And also was a fantastic way to get to know new people because,
21:31
you know, new people would be like, "Oh, you know,
21:32
my friend Johnny's in town,
21:33
like let's bring him along to this Saturday or to social event,
21:35
this like 8:00 a.m. every Saturday lake meet-up."
21:37
So, there's things like
21:38
that that you can do
21:39
that systemize the stuff
21:41
that you want to do in your social life
21:42
as well.
21:43
This is the value of like a monthly book club
21:45
or a weekly lads video game night
21:47
or monthly movie night with your friends,
21:49
and especially when people get busy.
21:51
Like, if you're watching this and you're young and you're like,
21:53
"Holy I can't believe like why do you have to stick a calendar event
21:56
for hanging out with your friends?"
21:57
If you're watching this and you're above the age of 25,
21:59
you know that you're busy, your friends are busy,
22:01
especially if you're watching this and you have kids or your friends have kids.
22:04
It's such a total freaking nightmare trying to schedule people and get them together,
22:08
which is why having a system around it can really, really help.
22:11
And I don't know if it's a thing in the rest of the world,
22:12
but in the UK,
22:13
there's like a real tradition of like sending physical Christmas cards to the people
22:16
that you know.
22:17
And so, we really suck at this,
22:18
but like I've got some friends who are really good at sending an annual
22:21
Christmas card,
22:21
and it's amazing how such a small thing can actually sustain a friendship for
22:25
decades and decades because you know you've got this annual touch point where you
22:28
just send a nice handwritten Christmas card,
22:30
maybe there's a photo of the family,
22:31
maybe there's a bit of an update about what you're up to.
22:33
And there is a system around this.
22:35
The people that remember birthdays, they probably don't have the birthday in your head,
22:38
they probably have it in their calendar.
22:39
And the people I know who are the most thoughtful about birthdays,
22:41
not only have your birthday in the calendar,
22:43
but they'll have a recurring event every year in their to-do list
22:47
that like 2 weeks before the birthday reminds them
22:49
that,
22:50
"Hey, Ali's birthday's coming up on whatever."
22:52
And so, they'll start thinking about the gift
22:53
or the card and stuff like 2 weeks in advance.
22:55
All of these are different examples of systemizing your relationships
22:58
so that it takes the guesswork out of it,
22:59
it takes the the decision fatigue out of it,
23:01
and ultimately it nudges you towards doing the actions
23:04
that you know are going to make it more likely
23:05
that you achieve your goal.
23:06
In this case, it's to maintain a good relationship with your spouse
23:09
and kids and friends
23:11
and family and stuff.
23:13
The final system I want to talk about in this video,
23:14
and we could talk about this for for absolutely ever
23:17
because I love this stuff.
23:18
This would be some kind of system around what do you do by default
23:21
when your paycheck comes in,
23:22
assuming you have a job or assuming you have a business.
23:24
And in general, most personal finance advisers
23:26
and gurus and stuff who like think about this stuff a lot
23:29
and advise people about it,
23:30
talk about building a system to put your finances on autopilot
23:34
as much as possible.
23:35
So, the people that end up not saving
23:37
or investing any money are the ones who get the paycheck,
23:39
and then they do whatever they want with it.
23:42
And then they're like, "Oh, hey, at yeah, at some point,
23:44
if there's any left over, then I'll invest it or then I'll save it."
23:47
That often never works because there is often very little left over.
23:50
Let's say this is your monthly paycheck.
23:51
As soon as the paycheck comes in,
23:53
automatically some percentage of it is set aside for savings,
23:56
and it goes into a a savings account, for example.
23:59
Automatically some percentage of it is set aside for investments,
24:02
and it automatically goes into the investment account via Robinhood
24:05
or the Roth IRA
24:06
or whatever the system is depending on your country.
24:09
Some percentage of it is automatically set aside for tax
24:12
if you are in a country
24:13
or in a situation where you have to pay your own taxes.
24:16
Some is automatically set aside for bills.
24:19
And then you know
24:20
that you can kind of do whatever you want with the rest
24:22
because at least the basics
24:23
that are going to keep you out of prison
24:25
and that are going to grow your financial nest egg have been taken care
24:27
of.
24:28
This is an example of a personal finance system.
24:30
It is a series of actions
24:31
or steps that you do every time you get your paycheck
24:33
that reduces the need for guesswork,
24:35
and if you can automate as much of this as possible,
24:37
it means that you don't even have to make the decision every single time
24:40
cuz it automatically goes into the savings account
24:42
and the investment account
24:42
and the bills account
24:43
and the tax account,
24:44
and then you know what's left over.
24:45
Whereas, if this is not automated,
24:46
then every single month you have to actively make the decisions.
24:49
And the problem with actively make making decisions is
24:51
that we generally make decisions emotionally rather than logically,
24:54
even though we like to think of ourselves as logical creatures.
24:57
Actually, like 99% of our decisions are made purely based on emotion.
25:00
And because our emotions are like fluctuating,
25:03
if we're feeling great and the paycheck hits, then fantastic.
25:05
We might be, you know,
25:06
be living in line with our our future self
25:08
and like putting stuff into savings
25:09
and investments.
25:10
But if we're not feeling great and the paycheck comes in,
25:12
we might be doing a lot less sensible things
25:14
when it comes to our money.
25:15
And so what a system does is
25:16
that it removes the need for you to make
25:17
that decision every single time.
25:19
You make the decision ahead of time, you set it and forget it.
25:22
And that tends to be how the people
25:23
that succeed at saving
25:24
and investing through uh the mechanism of something like a regular paycheck,
25:27
they tend to have some kind of system around it.
25:29
Now, hopefully this video has convinced you
25:30
that it's very helpful to have systems around your personal
25:33
and professional life to help you achieve your goals.
25:35
And if you're interested in learning more about the specific system
25:37
that I've developed around goal setting,
25:38
then there will be a video right over here,
25:40
which is about the GPS method.
25:42
Now, GPS stands for goal, plan, and system.
25:43
So, it's another video that's about systems,
25:45
but it will go into much more detail about specifically how to set goals,
25:48
how to create plans,
25:49
and then how to build systems to make sure you actually stick to the
25:51
plan.
25:52
So, that'll be right over there.
25:53
And thank you so much for watching, and I will see you over there.
25:55
Bye-bye.
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