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The School of Life
How to Know When You've Found a Great Partner
How to Know When You've Found a Great Partner
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There's a peculiar and paradoxical way in
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which we can't really tell who our partner is until
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and unless our relationship with them comes to an end.
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Of course, we can know many things about them. how charming they can be
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or how witty and entertaining,
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what accomplished friends or parents they make.
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But we aren't for
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that matter ever being shown the truly complete picture for one fundamental reason.
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They still have a lot to lose.
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After all, they're our wife or husband.
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They're our long-term partner.
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They're meant to be with us until death.
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And therefore, they have a reputation to defend.
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They're reliant on our ongoing goodwill.
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They have an incentive to maintain a front.
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However, once it's evident that things really will come to a close,
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that the lawyers are being called in the morning,
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that the removal van is outside, then the bets are off.
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There's no more good name to defend, the future has vanished,
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they're going to become strangers again.
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Furthermore, there may be fury, a sense of betrayal, a grief, a pentup rage,
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a terror. all ingredients
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that help one to lose command over one's more diplomatic faculties.
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It's now when it no longer matters
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that we stand to gain our most telling glimpse of who we've actually been
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together with all these years.
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Sometimes, even often, the news is pretty sobering.
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For a long time, we took them to be touchingly shy and rather modest.
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In the closing scenes,
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we discover that what they are most of all is appallingly immature
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when it comes to expressing their needs
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and willing to cause us immense pain in a bid to evade responsibility.
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Or for so long we imagine that beneath a slightly steelely exterior.
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They surely had deep feelings for us.
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They were welldefended, but they weren't without emotion.
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And yet, as we discover in the last months,
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perhaps they truly were without any care.
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There isn't a single tear.
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There are no protests at all.
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They seem to be plainly and simply glad to see the back of us.
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Maybe we weren't hallucinating during the relationship.
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Maybe they just didn't like us very much.
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To think that all along this kind of stuff was hidden below the surface
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and that it took an ending to make it clear.
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But the news is not only and always grim.
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In some cases, we can discover enormous hopeinducing decency.
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When they have every chance to exact revenge, they don't.
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When they no longer need to be nice, they remain so.
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Even when it isn't going to change anything,
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they work with us to achieve a good ending.
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They may also help us with a health issue or give us a loan.
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The index of a person's real character is how they behave towards those who
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are no longer of any use to them.
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Hence the wisdom of the saying,
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we should marry the person that we would want to be divorced from.
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Or rather, we should want to be together with the person who it would
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be a heartwarming surprise no longer to be with.
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We can learn a lot from being with someone.
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We may learn even more when we're no longer.
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